Three Years

As of tomorrow, we’ve been doing this marriage thing for three years. Tell me what I should have learned by now. The way I see it, two people that do the things we do (you’re kidding! I talk too much??? Wait, he’s quiet!??!) aren’t going to start trying a whole new life after the vows. But what I do totally know is that this thing does not survive, as I once thought. It evolves. And the struggle – and the FUN – is getting it to evolve together.

MK still doesn’t know the kitchen system. I still yell when he wants me to do anything not on my agenda. Whatever. My Momma and Dadd send me a card. So does Auntie. But to whom else does it really matter? We’re not the kind of couple that goes for a dinner. We don’t exchange gifts. We have had company the last two years, and maybe that will be our tradition.

I’m dumping MK tomorrow to head up to LA. My sweet love is there and I will go see her and impart all the wisdom of three years of marriage three months before she says her “I do”s. I will tell her it’s fun and hard. Stuff she and RB totally already know. I will talk about the trials and the realization that what one person thinks can matter so much. I am so fiercely in love it hasn’t been three years, it’s been a lifetime. And even if I don’t tell him until Friday (someday he’ll read this blog right?) he is the light of my life, the man of my dreams, the thread holding precarious me together.

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6 thoughts on “Three Years

  1. We will be married for seven years at the end of June. He still doesn’t know the why the current kitchen is set up and we have been in this house for more than two years now. 🙂 Marriage is constantly evolving. We have had our worst year yet since the economy has been so bad. I don’t have a job and that makes it even worse at times. We are in such a rut that when I went to resident camp for two months it was a breath of fresh air. It is time for resident camp again so maybe the money relief will help us. My parents have been married for over 43 years and I can see it now since I am married. They are still struggling at times and their marriage changes from year to year. I think it is a constant that marriages have to evolve or the die. Good Luck in the years to come!

  2. Happy Anniversary!! Gag me with all the mushy “fiercely in love” stuff. 😉

    Oh, and I agree with txlonestargirl’s comment. Marriages do evolve, and ruts happen. They can be really difficult to break out of, but worth the pain of working through. You can come out of them wiser, more sensitive to your spouse, and less sensitive about yourself– all good things, in my experience. So, keep at it!

    We love you both, and we’re so glad we’ve been a part of your lives, especially the past three years.

  3. Such a romantic (?). I prefer to call Momm my “life-partner”. We won’t discuss the benefits package since this is a G rated blog (and I know it would gross y’all out), but whatever it was, is or will be: LOVE, HONOR and OBEY.

  4. txlonestargal- thanks for the comment! Good luck with your struggles and make sure to take good care of each other!
    Trish – we’re not more or less sensitive, we’re numb! 🙂 Thanks for the sweet thoughts.
    Dadd – Eeew.
    Craig – The benefit being we it isn’t Dadd’s? haha

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